So I got reacquainted with a girl I knew in the past through facebook. It started out simple enough, we were fb friends, gave the occasional comment on status updates, chatted a little and time went on. I always thought she was cool and pretty, just never really "went for it"... until around the end of September. One night we started chatting on fb, the conversation then went to yahoo IM, and we talked for hours. We continued to talk daily, usually multiple times daily, and sometimes until very late in the night. Halloween was approaching, and she invited me to a Halloween Party her friends were throwing. We had matching costumes and had a BLAST at the party, in fact we clicked so well, that we went to her place that night. It was amazing that night, and then again in the morning. Our chats remained very frequent, it seemed we really started to like each other and we communicated very well. She came over to my house one weekend and we got to spend some time together. I went to her place before she flew out of town with her friend that had thrown the party and we attacked each other as soon as I walked in the door, again, it was amazing. She messaged me continually, even when out of town and out partying. We kept in contact multiple times daily and sometimes late into the night.
On the Sunday before Thanksgiving, her daughter and her got out their Christmas trees and decorations, and she made a comment that she was having a tough time with the holidays. The communication started to tail off, we still talked daily, a few times a day, and even made plans to see each other the following weekend. Then I didn't hear from her on Thursday night, as she was with her family. I didn't hear anything again all day Friday, Saturday afternoon came and I got a message from her that she had gone to the country to see more family, and her phone didn't work, that she would be home on Sunday. Sunday came, and nothing, then Monday came and went without a word. Now, I had been messaging her, 3x on Friday, and twice on Saturday before I knew she was out of town. I knew something was wrong, we had been in such close contact every day before this. I sent a message on Sunday that we needed to talk, yet never got a reply. I sent my last message on Monday and it said this:
I don't know if I "scared" you in some way, or if you felt I was getting "too close", or if maybe I am simply not "the guy" you are looking for... but either way, it's very unfair for you to just cut off all communication to me and leave me sitting here wondering "What happened?". I told you from the beginning that I was a "one woman" kind of guy, you told me last week that you were "all mine"... I thought things were going well, aside from the limited time we got to actually be together, so this sudden distance that you have put between us is really quite striking especially since there was no argument or disagreement that we ever had. I am not looking to smother you and I understand the stress level you have been under professionally lately and that Holidays can be tough times. I wanted to be someone you could talk to about those things, to support you, someone you can vent to, and someone who will listen and understand.
It felt like we got along very well, sex was amazing, communication was wide open... I just don't get it, and I would really like for you to enlighten me. I just simply didn't see a complete shut-off coming.
I will leave this totally in your court, but I will be here if/when you are ready to talk.
Again, no reply Monday night...
So here I sit, confused, a little upset, and heartbroken. Even though we hadn't been seeing each other for very long, I felt a real attachment to her. I think we felt it towards each other, at least, when we talked it appeared that way. I just don't see what went wrong, and I am not getting any answers from her. It's frustrating. I haven't slept well in a few nights and I check my email and instant messenger constantly in hopes I will see something from her... even if it is "Take a Hike!" at least it would be something. She said she "needed to work some things out" as the reason why she left town, and I wonder if she really even left town, but she had never lied before, so why would she now? All I can do is wait for a response, to continue to message her would be to look "needy" and maybe a little "stalkerish". I would fight/work/ do whatever to get things at least to the way they were, but if she won't talk then there is nothing I can do... except hope for the best, and plan for the worst.
